Me, myself, i…
By
Nicholas Ashton, CEO/CIO, CommSmart Global Group
In the
beginning you were the only one with an idea, a solution, a product or
service. You toiled away at the house,
garden-shed or in the garage and perfected to your satisfaction, your
dream.
It was yours, all yours!
Along the
route, did you seek advice, discuss, implement others suggestions in your final
decision making? Of course you did, it
might have not been direct, but face it, we cannot all know everything can we?
You have 100%
of something, your thinking is very simple, you are the only one with this idea
and it will make you very rich. The next step is the hardest, through your
closeness to the project you are ignorant of the pit-falls, those that would
remove the well thought out ideas and steal them for themselves are hovering at
every turn. You now have to fund the
whole idea and open yourself to the Wolves
of Wall Street, or at least the local bank or known potential investors.
This is where
ME, MYSELF, I… takes a hard blow to the ego. Personal framework is the
context we think about the least. As we attempt to circumnavigate the individual
or organization’s physical and cultural setting, our own personal perspective
filters, simply our view as well as our responses need to be in focus.
Every
person has what is called the “ME, MYSELF, I” factor. It is made up of our own
personality, experiences, methodology, principles, reserves, and most likely a
lot of other points you can think of as well.
Our “ME, MYSELF, I”
factor in some cases, helps us succeed, but more often contributes to our
failures or at least our diabolic struggles. The reason it is so powerful is that
we often don’t really see, or understand it.
Though, maybe we do see it, but don’t want to examine it too closely. It
like as a child hearing a noise in our bedroom as we lay there and are frighten
to look under the bed, as we have heard about the people who live under
us. Pure “old wives tales” of course!
Our “ME, MYSELF, I”
factor acts as a strainer through which we see the rest of the world. If we
don’t know how this filter changes our vision, our view of reality is really inaccurate
and we will pay the consequences down the road.
So in
business, we know that it is a wild and dangerous world out there. Sure, you get started with your ideas and
others monies, hiring people close to you, thinking that they have your same
dreams and aspirations. Do they? The majority do not and never will.
We are
discussing a narcissist as someone who is, metaphorically
speaking, "always looking at their own image in the mirror of their
own mind.” stated Andrew Cohen.
And yet,
Cohen expands the definition of narcissism to describe it as "a
cultural epidemic," which he strongly associates with the baby
boom generation and the emergence of postmodernism. Cohen says that this
generation is very different from other generations because "we have grown
up in the age where life is really about me...
Once you
start in business the world changes and so must you! The responsibility is deafening and you must
remove your embedded earplugs and hear it all, the good, the bad and the ugly.
When one
amasses a team, each cog must turn at the precise moment to be a success. This does not happen overnight and certainly not
without strong communications, planning and a positive agenda. Revision is a key factor in moving
forward. It is the ability to review and
respond and this can only be achieved with a team of “WE”.
Our beliefs
are clear cut, steer clear of the ME,
MYSELF, I… crowd. Those that use I did this and I did
that, and only in their own mind are they a success. Do not be fearful in challenging such
people. No one has the exclusive on
success or failure!
Those so
called business leaders that dominate by arrogance and a methodology of a
culture of fear can take their ideology and play in their own pit. Eventually you see right through their façade
and stand toe to toe with them. Better
still, improve your game, your employees and your sales or production methods
and win over them, with a success that will scar them for live. Whilst they have been wallowing in their narcissistic
irrelevance, you have taken it to the bank!
Just to
remind you of what this week is all about…
It is ME or WE Week
Or is it ME or WE are WEAK WEEK?
Narcissists
are considered a true liability in business and the corporate world. Their lack
of empathy and inherent selfishness helps them rise straight to the top.
Conventionally,
the narcissistic personality marked by a grandiose intellect of self and
lack of empathy for
others considered a liability in the business world. Their arrogance, tendency
to envy others
and reluctance to take blame or share credit does not recommend narcissists as
"team players."
Leadership is
pure “WE”, which are YOU?
We shall be
addressing how these differences affect you, your company and family.
“When we are
at our lowest, we all become wild and crazy in our frantic decision making, all
of us are on different levels and personal actions.
You have your 9 thru 5 business face and actions – then the after-hours façade kicks in. You and you alone only know your level of craziness.
There is always the P.T. Barnum in us all. To some, he never manifests, in others, he takes over!
It is those that create, generate and communicate in those common and logical terms, we are firm in our desire for success and listen to all, pluck what we feel is for us and then adapt and succeed.
You have your 9 thru 5 business face and actions – then the after-hours façade kicks in. You and you alone only know your level of craziness.
There is always the P.T. Barnum in us all. To some, he never manifests, in others, he takes over!
It is those that create, generate and communicate in those common and logical terms, we are firm in our desire for success and listen to all, pluck what we feel is for us and then adapt and succeed.
It is the WE Factor!
email: we@commsmart-global.com
telephone: +1 (330) 366.6860
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